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Mom’s Book Release! — That Your Faith May Not Fail, Peter’s Sermon, by Selah Helms

We are grateful to the Lord to announce the release of Peter’s book, a story of his life, our journey with him the last five years, and the sustaining grace of our great God!

That Your Faith May Not Fail, Peter’s Sermon, by Selah Helms is available on Amazon for $16.99. For you prayer warriors who’ve sustained us, we would like to make the book available at a discount. Private message Selah Helms on Facebook if you are interested.

Here are some of the reviews that have come in so far:

“a true love story between a family and their God . . .” – Barb Stewart

“. . . a poignant and moving account of God’s faithfulness in the midst of great challenge and serious struggle. . . . .  Highly recommended!” – David S. Dockery, Ph.D – President, Trinity International University

“This book tells the story of fiery trials, tested faith, and the Lord’s sustaining grace in the lives of a godly family who were entrusted with a severe mercy. That Your Faith May Not Fail is a stirring account of how God’s strength is made perfect in weakness, of how our light momentary afflictions are preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison.” –Brian Hedges, pastor, Fulkerson Park Baptist Church

“Selah Helms . . . has written a captivating book that I could hardly put down. The story is gripping and God-honoring as Selah and her husband Doug and their children grapple with the events of Peter’s accident and afterwards. This is one book you will want to read. I highly recommend it.” – Martha Peace, Biblical Counselor and author of The Excellent Wife

“. . . .This moving account of how they have and are walking through the ordeal of Peter’s suffering is truly powerful. I was challenged and encouraged by reading it. I found myself yearning to know God more richly, to trust Him more fully, to love my family more deeply, and to immerse myself more completely into God’s Word. I urge you to read this book and pass it on to others because it will be useful in building up believers and calling people to faith in Jesus, as it recounts how this family has found God faithful as they have been held fast by the great gospel truths.” – Ray Van Neste, Ph.D, Director of the R.C. Ryan Center for Biblical Studies and Professor of Biblical studies, Union University

“This resource will stimulate the reader to view the sanctity of life through the lens of scripture concurrently with providing practical helps for any woman to assume the biblical role of caregiver.  Knowing the Helms family personally, I can affirm that they daily model their trust in their heavenly Father and His sovereignty that the book so clearly presents regardless of the outward circumstances.” – Patricia A. Ennis, Ph. D, CFCS – Distinguished Professor of Homemaking and Director of Homemaking Programs,
Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary

“I am abundantly grateful to the LORD for the inspiring privilege to read That Your Faith May Not Fail. . . .In the midst of a culture that speaks of “quality of life” issues and devalues suffering, the Helms’ God-given testimony speaks like a megaphone. Our belief system tells us that Peter has been used of the LORD to teach others to sacrificially love. In the midst of skepticism about the value of the Church he has been used by our LORD to show the beauty of the body of Christ in action. In the midst of the degradation of the American family, He has allowed the Helms family to model its tremendous depth and beauty. Please feed your soul and reinforce your theology by reading this book.” – Ernie Baker, D.Min, Professor of Biblical Counseling The Master’s College

News and Updates

To Peter’s faithful prayer warriors, news and updates:

So, the year of 2015 jumped off to a much better start than 2014 did. We are settled into our new home. It works very well for Peter’s needs and for ours. Not only did the Lord answer our prayers for a more suitable home, but as well, he has provided already a young man to come live with us! (Remember this prayer request from last year?) Joe is a college student who also goes to our church, and he has been a good fit with us and Peter. Between this young man and three others that the Lord has sent into our lives–people who love Peter and care for him with a standard of excellence–Peter’s needs are well-covered right now. This is such a provision to us, and I am so glad I have the time and space to write you how the Lord brought us through to this point.

Last year was somewhat discouraging, as we lost caregiver after caregiver over the months, and we had to pack up and move–always a major stressor–at the same time. I am not sure all that the Lord wants to teach us during those kinds of times, as it was super tiring and sparse in comfort. But I have learned that the greatest prayer the Lord can answer on our behalf is to keep us faithful unto death. James 5:11 tells us that we can consider a person blessed by the Lord when he remains faithful under trial. The same sentiment shows up in Psalm 119:56, which indicates the Lord’s blessing on a person sparkles, not when everything is going well, but when he obeys the Lord’s precepts faithfully.

It appears evident the Scripture views faithfulness as the big catch, not freedom from being inconvenienced, or freedom from pain and suffering, or even freedom to have an easy time of doing what we think God wants us to do. How we have been blessed if the Lord keeps us faithfully on the path, doggedly so, in spite of setbacks and hardships!

Now that these provisions are in place, we don’t put our hope in them, but in the Lord’s faithfulness to us to keep us faithful in plenty or in want. However, I am hopeful that I will have more opportunities to write for this blog, because there are other things I think the Lord is giving to us that I want to share. So, more soon, Lord willing.

Learning to live to hear the “well-done,”
Selah (for Doug, Peter, and the family)

Our Thanksgiving

Last week, I had the privilege of speaking to a college class on the pro-life ethic applied to disability, age and illness. A student in the class asked me for ideas of how a person could come alongside a caregiver in a support role. Here are several of the ways folks have done this for us over the past four and a half years:

One woman packed my freezer with meals—one a week for an entire year: wow!

A man offered to get the oil changed in our cars.

Six women have faithfully cleaned our house for four years (two teams of two or three have come once every month).

Volunteers consistently help with mat session—Pete’s physical therapy. We’ve had teams of three or four people for each day of the week who come once a week for an hour (3-4 pm) on their specified day to help stand Peter up, bounce him on the ball, stretch out his limbs, stand him in the standing frame, and so on. Several of these come from our church, but also from our larger Christian community. We especially need men for this particular activity, as it requires some lifting.

A teenage boy from our church volunteered on Thursdays from 8-5 (for a time) to come into our home and stay with Pete. He learned speech or occupational therapy exercises, so that his time with Peter was very productive.

A few people have learned to stay overnight with Peter. Men who are willing to do this are still able to get about 5 or 6 hours of sleep during the night, while they take care of Peter’s needs of turning, changing, giving nighttime water and meds.

A college girl mows our lawn. She also cooks supper one night a week for us.

Givers have contributed funds to an account that we use to pay people for respite and other extra care, to give us times away.

Faraway friends have written us notes and cards filled with Scripture, keeping us aware that they continually pray for us. They encourage us in the day-to-day perseverance required for a task such as this.

One college girl blessed me a lot by asking about Peter, his current needs and memories we have of him before the accident.

One woman from our church made cookies at Christmas in order for us to give to our neighbors—she helped us make a connection with our neighbors and night nursing help by giving us something to bless them with.

Friends nearby call me occasionally while they are at the grocery store, to see if they can pick up anything for me while they are shopping for themselves.

One of my children gives almost a month every summer to come and stay with us and take over Peter’s care so that we can have one month of total break.

Doug’s brother spends Wednesday evenings with Peter, so that we can both go to prayer meeting.

Eleven families pitched in for funds to buy us a wheel chair van three years ago early at the start of our care-giving journey.

A Christian businessman paid to hire one of Peter’s cousins to work in our home 30 hours a week for three years back when he had a trach and his care was relentlessly intensive.

A Christian homeschooling couple (he was a doctor, she an occupational therapist) donated five days of their Christmas vacation to stay in our house and care for Pete to give us some respite time.

A Christian friend from Pennsylvania came for a week when Joshua and Beth were engaged, in order for me to get a head start on wedding planning.

One of Pete’s brothers and one of his cousins trade out spending Friday nights with Pete, a night we don’t have covered with paid help from insurance.

Our daughter in law keeps a blog going online, giving people updates on Peter’s needs and asking folks to pray.

Girls from our church pop by sometimes and ask me what needs to be done around the house.

So as this year comes to a close, we are grateful for the body of Christ, for how these of you mentioned above as well as many others have been the hands and feet of the Lord’s ministry to Peter and to us. Those of you who would like to help: our biggest current need is for mat session crews. Contact us if you are interested in being a part of Team Pete.

Our Thanksgiving is rich indeed.

The New House

Here is the house God provided for us! We are still amazed at how all of the details came together and how perfect the house is for our needs regarding Peter and seeking out live-in help. Recently, we were given a $1000 gift card to Home Depot and someone else volunteered their labor to create the bedroom addition we are planning for our live-in help. Now we just need someone to draw up the plans. So I’m sure there will be more pictures to come as we get more settled in and are able to set up our system for help.

For now, we wanted to share some pictures of Peter’s new bedroom and some of the favorite spots he enjoys in the house! Aside from the second story, the entire house is pretty much wheel chair accessible, including ramps.


This is the sun room, one of Peter’s favorite spots in the house! Our previous house didn’t have very many windows, and not really any that Peter could see out of, so it is a treat for Peter to be able to look out even when he can’t be outside. We do his therapy sessions in here, and you can also see his standing frame over on the right. One of the therapists said that Peter loves to look out of the window so much, that when they do therapy together he has to turn Peter away from the windows or Peter won’t pay attention!


This is Peter’s standing frame which holds him in a standing position.


Peter relaxing in the recliner just before dinner.


In Peter’s room we painted a chalkboard wall so we could write encouraging notes for him to see while he is in bed, as well as any care provider notes that need to be made. We then hung some of Peter’s art as well as other art that Peter grew up around that might stimulate memory and create a familiar environment for him.




This is a sculpture Peter made before his accident. We keep it close to put in his hands and stimulate his memory.


Peter’s room is so much bigger here at the new house, and it is so nice to have so much room for storing all of the medical supplies and move his wheel chair around!



This is the bed for whoever spends the night in Peter’s room taking care of him.


Peter now has his own wheel chair accessible bathroom and shower right off the bedroom. This gives more privacy for his care needs since it is not the main bathroom in the house.



Notes are posted on the door for Peter’s caretakers about his medical needs.



Even the backyard is wheelchair accessible! Peter loves to spend time on this patio. As you can see there is plenty of room for an addition to the house and we hope to be able to share more details about that as it comes together.


The next step will be finding people to live with us in exchange for helping with Peter’s care. Please pray this need will be filled soon! If anyone is interested, please contact us.

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